| Description |
xv, 460 pages ; 24 cm |
| Contents |
About Language -- Where Am I Right Now? -- What It Will Feel Like to Use This Book -- About the Exercises in this Book -- Writing as a Healing Tool -- About Freewriting -- Art as a Healing Tool -- About Making Collages -- Survival Skills for Healing -- Creating Safety -- The Five Building Blocks of Safety -- Create Ground Rules -- Build a Container -- Find a Safe Spot -- Establish Your Privacy -- Establish a Protective Ritual -- Building Your Support System -- Creating a Support System -- Helps and Hindrances to Healing -- Therapists and Therapy -- Dealing With Crisis -- When I'm Lost and Scared -- Phone List for Hard Times -- When I Start to Panic -- Things I Can Do When I'm Overwhelmed -- Dealing with Suicidal Feelings -- My Suicide Prevention Plan -- The Emergency Stage -- Simplify Your Life -- Ask for Help -- Create a Light at the End of the Tunnel -- Nurturing Yourself -- Learning to Nurture Yourself -- Marking the Way -- Marking the Way: A Writing Exercise -- What Have I Already Accomplished? -- Celebrating Your Accomplishments -- Taking Stock -- Where did I Come From? -- When I Was Growing Up -- Name the Abuser -- The Effects: How did it Change My Life? -- Assessing the Damage -- Identifying My Strengths -- Activity: Picturing the Effects -- Putting the Abuse in Perspective -- Coping: How did I Survive? -- Identifying Coping Mechanisms -- Forgiving Yourself -- The Pros and Cons of Coping Behaviors -- Developing Healthier Ways of Coping -- Aspects of Healing -- The Decision to Heal -- Preparing for Change -- Facing an Uncertain Future -- Willingness -- About Courage -- Activity: Designing a Warrior Mask -- Expanding Your Capacity for Hope -- Putting Hope Aside: A Writing Exercise -- My Hopes Today -- Making Hopes Come True -- Remembering -- What Is a Memory? -- Piecing Together the Puzzle -- If You Don't Remember -- What Am I Afraid Of? -- Activity: Picturing -- Believing it Happened -- I Don't Want to Believe It -- Research Your Childhood -- Breaking Silence -- Why Tell? -- Simple Telling or Confrontation? -- Childhood Lessons: Silence -- If You Told -- A Few Choice Words on Telling the Truth -- Guidelines for Telling -- Understanding that it Wasn't Your Fault -- Letting Go of Shame -- Identifying Hidden Shame -- Replacing Shame with Reality -- Observing Children -- Evidence of Childhood -- The Child Within -- Activity: Picturing the Child Within -- Letter to an Abused Child: A Writing Exercise -- Learning to Trust Yourself -- Being Present -- Internalized Messages -- The Inner Voice -- Learning to Say No -- Saying No: A Writing Exercise -- Grieving and Mourning -- Naming Your Losses: A Writing Exercise -- Activity: Creating a Grieving Ritual -- Anger -- Anger Inventory -- Fear of Anger -- Letters to an Abuser: A Pair of Writing Exercises -- Anger into Action -- Activity: The Banner Project -- Forgiveness? -- Confrontations -- What Have I Done Already? -- Should I Confront? -- Vanquishing Secret Hopes -- Making a Confrontation Plan -- After the Confrontation -- The Other Eulogy: A Writing Exercise -- Dealing with Your Family Now -- What Is a Family? -- Evaluating My Family of Origin -- Redefining Family -- Looking at Individual Relationships -- Setting the Ground Rules -- Planning for Family Contact -- Developing Realistic Expectations -- Giving Up the Fantasy: A Writing Exercise -- Letting Go: An Activity -- Enjoying Your New Family: A Writing Exercise -- Resolution and Moving on -- How Far Have I Come? A Writing Exercise -- Why Has It Been Worth It? -- Tooting Your Own Horn -- Things I Like About Myself -- Things I've Dreamed of Doing and Becoming -- Activity: Creating a Celebration Ritual -- Guidelines for Healing Sexually -- For Whom Am I Doing This? -- What Is Sex? -- What Is Sex? (Part II) -- Sexual Ground Rules -- Safe Sex Guidelines -- Activity: Massaging Hands -- Sexual Hopes: A Writing Exercise -- Resources -- Organizations -- Healing Books |
| Summary |
"In this groundbreaking companion to The Courage to Heal, Laura Davis offers an inspiring, in-depth workbook that speaks to all women and men healing from the effects of child sexual abuse. The combination of checklists, writing and art Projects, open-ended questions and activities expertly guides the survivor through the healing process."--Publisher's description |
| Bibliography |
Includes bibliographical references (pages 455-460) |
| Subject |
Adult child sexual abuse victims -- Psychology.
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Adult child sexual abuse victims -- Rehabilitation -- United States.
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Adult child sexual abuse victims -- Rehabilitation.
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Self-help techniques.
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Child Abuse, Sexual -- psychology.
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Child Abuse, Sexual -- rehabilitation.
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Men -- psychology.
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Self Care.
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Women -- psychology.
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| LC no. |
89045646 |
| ISBN |
0060964375 |
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