Somatic Intervention skills are an essential addition to every relationship therapist's toolbox. There is no conversation worth having if the nervous system isn't in a settled state. When couples become emotionally charged it's because they're feeling threatened. Their nervous systems become alert, ready to defend. This defense serves to keep vulnerable feelings buried and interferes with their ability to effectively engage with their partner. In this presentation, I will offer strategies to enable couples to settle their nervous systems in order to delve more deeply into the sources of distress so that constructive solutions can emerge