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Author Dececco, Phd, John

Title Men Who Beat the Men Who Love Them : Battered Gay Men and Domestic Violence
Published Hoboken : Taylor and Francis, 2013
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Description 1 online resource (485 pages)
Contents Cover; Original Title; Title; Copyright; Dedication; Contents; Acknowledgments; Foreword; Preface; Introduction; Chapter I: Is This Violence?; The Carrots Incident; How Many Gay Men Are Victims of Domestic Violence?; Why Is It So Hard to Find Out How Many Gay Men Are Battered by Their Mates?; Best Estimates; Myths and Misconceptions; Is This Violence?; Violence Is This; Raped in San Diego; Chapter II: Why Does It Happen More Than Once?; Battered on New Year's Eve; The Gay Community Allows It to Happen; What Is Theory?; The Twelve Underlying Principles
Alcohol and DrugsAIDS Is No Excuse; Gender; Domestic Violence Is Not Codependency; Separate Psychologies; End Piece; Chapter X: How to Stop the Violence; Mutual Friends; The Prevention of Domestic Violence; The Prevention Model Part One: Legislative Response; The Prevention Model Part Two: Private and Public Action; A Final Word; References; Appendix; Index
Basic Theory: Why Does It Happen More Than Once?Chapter III: Who Are the Batterers?; Please Don't Kill Me!; Batterers Are Unclear on the Concept of Masculinity; Who Are the Batterers?; How Do Batterers Develop?; The Mental Disorders of Battering; Current Psychodiagnostic Categories; The Progressive Disorder of Battering: Diagnosis, Not Accusation; Treatment Programs; A Final Word on Accountability; Chapter IV: Who Are the Victims?; I Strike First; Victims Are Unclear on the Concept of Responsibility; Who Are the Victims?; How Are Victims Created?; Why Do They Stay?; What About Lesbians?
Chapter VIII: Therapists and Intervention ProgramsThe Letter Never Sent; How Therapy Can Help Gay Male Victims; A Therapist Actually Asks Me to Help Stephen!; The Treatment Model; Availability of Therapy; Availability of Community Support Services; Availability of Safe Houses and Lay Helpers; Availability of Law Enforcement and Justice System Services; Action; Chapter IX: The Unusual Psychology of Domestic Violence; The Neighbors Call the Police; The Unusual Psychology of Domestic Violence; Let's Get Clear on the Concept of Provocation; The Victim's Paradox; What! Have My Lover Arrested?
Gay Male VictimsThe Victim Theory; Chapter V: How Do You Get Out?; The Escape; How Do You Get Out?; Going Back with the Police; Chapter VI: How Do You Stay Out?; Chased Down Castro Street; How Do You Stay Out?; Your Life Without Abuse; Can You Tell if He Is a Batterer Before You Become a Victim?; And Still He Pursues Me; Chapter VII: How Do You Help a Friend?; Sarah "Helps Out"; How Friends and Relatives Can Be Supportive; How Do You Help a Friend? Basic Tips for the Lay Helper; Safe House Guidelines; Special Advice for Lay Helpers in Daily Contact with Ex-Victims
Summary Domestic violence in gay male relationships is the third largest health problem for gay men in America today. Men Who Beat the Men Who Love Them breaks the silence surrounding gay male domestic violence and exposes this hidden yet prevalent and destructive problem. The authors paint a vivid picture of gay men's domestic violence, bringing its brutality to life by including personal narratives, written by one of the authors, by clearly defining what it is and what it is not through lists of violent acts and criminal code categories, and by thoroughly examining and analyzing the criminal, mental
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Form Electronic book
Author Island, David.
Letellier, Patrick.
ISBN 1317765508