Description |
1 online resource |
Contents |
Cover; Endorsement; Half Title; Title Page; Copyright Page; Table of contents; Acknowledgements; Introduction; Part I Surviving the storm; Chapter 1 Why sex and porn addiction hurts so much; The tidal wave; How addiction wrecks trust; How the discovery or disclosure process impacts trust; The impact on intimacy; How social stigma and ignorance isolates couples; It's all about infidelity; Sex addicts are perverts; Once an addict, always an addict; Addiction is just an excuse; He/she is not who you thought they were?; You're over-reacting; References |
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Chapter 2 Understanding the reality of sex addictionThe tidal wave -- 101; What is sex addiction?; The biology of addiction; The psychology of addiction; Sex addiction and sex drive; How addiction starts; Classifications of sex addiction; Opportunity-induced addiction; Trauma-induced addiction; Attachment-induced addiction; How addiction is maintained and reinforced; Is it an addiction?; References; Chapter 3 Prioritising individual recovery; Getting back to dry land; The dangers of trying to recover together; The partner's journey; S -- survive the trauma; U -- understand the cycle of reaction |
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R -- repair self-identity and self-esteemF -- face the future; The addicted partner's journey; C -- challenge core beliefs; H -- have a vision; O -- overcome compulsive behaviours; I -- identify positive sexuality; C -- connect with others; E -- establish confident recovery; References; Chapter 4 Surviving the impact stage; The tasks; 1. Commit to self-care; 2. Look after family; 3. Establish accountability; 4. Minimise conflict; 5. Agree check-ins; Practical check-in; Emotional check-in; References; Summary for couple therapists -- the impact stage; Part II Assessing the damage |
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Chapter 5 Understanding the importance of disclosureThe therapeutic disclosure; Benefits for the couple; Benefits for the partner; Benefits for the addicted partner; Using a polygraph; After disclosure -- what?; Telling others; References; Chapter 6 Analysing the condition of your relationship; General relationship satisfaction; Assessing your relationship; Compatibility; Intimacy; Lifestyle; Communication; The Relationship Assessment Tool; Ground rules of a successful relationship; References; Chapter 7 Navigating the meaning stage; Constructive communication; Communication guidelines |
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Task one -- sharing how you areThe emotional impact letter (partner); The emotional restitution letter (addicted partner); The addiction explanation letter (addicted partner); The explanation acknowledgement letter (partner); Task three -- sharing what you need; References; Chapter 8 Considering the decision to stay or leave; Questions common to both; Questions for the partner; Questions for the addicted partner; Final considerations; Summary for couple therapists -- the meaning stage; Part III Re-launching your life -- alone; Chapter 9 Having a 'healthy' divorce; How to have a healthy divorce |
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Step 1 -- accept the reality of your situation |
Summary |
Sex Addiction: A Guide for Couples and Those Who Help Them is a practical book that provides empathic support, guidance, information and pragmatic strategies for couples who want to survive sex and porn addiction - whether that's together, or apart. Sex and porn addiction devastates couple relationships, and unlike the impact of infidelity, there is no 'before' to get back to and no 'after'. This book adopts the metaphor of a boat, presenting addiction as the tidal wave that devastates the relation-ship, leaving both crew members fighting for survival. There's guidance to ensure each partner makes it safely back to shore and advice on surveying the damage to your relation-ship and deciding if you want to save it and set sail again. You'll find practical advice for both the partner and the addicted partner, including first-hand accounts of couples that have already undertaken the journey. There are exercises to do alone, and many to share together, to help you understand what's happened, consider your future, and if you choose to stay together, begin the task of rebuilding trust and intimacy. Sex Addiction is not only a practical guide for couples, but also for the therapists who support them. This book will be a companion to Paula Hall's previous books on sex addiction and builds on the already known frameworks and models used, but it is also written to stand alone |
Bibliography |
Includes bibliographical references and index |
Notes |
Description based on print version record and CIP data provided by publisher |
Subject |
Sex addiction.
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Sex addiction -- Treatment
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Sex addicts -- Family relationships
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HEALTH & FITNESS -- Diseases -- General.
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MEDICAL -- Clinical Medicine.
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MEDICAL -- Diseases.
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MEDICAL -- Evidence-Based Medicine.
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MEDICAL -- Internal Medicine.
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PSYCHOLOGY -- Psychotherapy -- Couples & Family.
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Sex addiction.
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Sex addiction -- Treatment.
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Form |
Electronic book
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LC no. |
2020693210 |
ISBN |
9781351259972 |
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1351259970 |
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9781351259996 |
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1351259997 |
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9781351259989 |
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1351259989 |
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9781351259965 |
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1351259962 |
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